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fiance wants to go to dubai when married.. /:?

if i were him and planning that... i would have at least asked. I have been to dubai before and it is a very boring luxury holiday, i quite dislike what is available for shopping is well, i don't like the style of shopping/shops. it isn't a very exciting place for me to be in at all, and the food is unhealthy enough.... i guess he picked something for himself, i prefer more exciting and interesting holidays, which are also relaxing and luxurious but with a good combination of natural fun; and i like it to be interesting, where i also gain from the holiday and learn... i like good experiences, an different but a certain type/way... ie; i would have preferred Egypt over dubai at any time! dubai is rich in culture and modern but its not my type of place.... im not very keen on their barbeque or the food as much either.... I wouldn't mind the maldives; or malaysia because malaysia has very beautiful natural environments compared to dubai; and it has a very varied mix of things to do..... you also have the influence of thai, chinese, indian, and other cultures is well..... with sooo many places to visit and go to. ie; island hopping; cable carts to a lot of places; temples; the most amazing water falls, and the shopping is far more interesting..... its affordable and very different, the activities on offer for holiday in malaysia are much more fun and more interactive and interesting... i hate dubai culture...... its not the most affordable place i think, shopping is the most boring but mostly uninteresting.... they have a lot beaches, some activities, artificial islands, etc..... they have fat rich pompous, may be drunk men don't they?? i don't really like the food, even when sooo expensive, its usual well themed; or stylish and mix of contemporary/ modern with something else... the have a variety from around the world but i could spit it out if i had to live there. i certainly wouldn't retire there ever.. any way, im happy to know at least may be he is thinking about me/ us; but im quite more than happy to skip holidaying for now as we have enough to do, need to get to know each other more which is enough for me to begin with, id rather be on holiday with some one i know better..... he doesn't know i have a tendency to phase out often unless i know the person and am comfortable enough other wise smaller periods of time hep me with better a focus and giving more positive attention... i don't mind having family to help us settle because their company is funner and its more so we get less bored and having family over or planning things will help.... We even have to travel in the summer for more after wedding stuff... And there is a lot to do here! I haven't even bee t the place he lives in! and im not good with too many new things all te time with people im not very comfortable with; i stride by doing things on my own other wise i prefer spending 'large' amounts of time which can be stressful with people i do know or am comfortable with... its just a bit more stressful if you don't know or aren't comfortable with the person enough, so i would have waited 3-5 or 6 months.... because of that you might not even make the most out of your holiday, and it can just be a bit forceful or quite an effort to get along/ enjoy holiday events.... /; im also quite lazy if not in the right mood, which can be for what ever reason but im good when its people i know! any who, im guessing i would wait 3-6 months easily.... just not to ruin vacation, that can be quite a terrible thing to do and it won't work in my favour at all..... im fine/ happy with not bothering for a year any way!, and seeing how things are after that is good... i would rather go to china! ^-^ im not too much in to spain, i mean im not fussed about spain, meh... i really like Rome,.. and Paris actually! (: *i really 'liked' Rome and Paris... i know nothings going to change my mind about dubai!.. its for fat rich pigs.... okay, i know they have a lot of fun stuff to get up to... but you have to buy it! ahaha! not my thing after living in englang, pakistan for too long and buying stuff in dubai, etc.... bleh, its boring and i prefer wearing sandals on a holiday like some other hot country, asian or even eygpt; its naturally funner.... or the maldives and other islands are better! i think dubai is the country he understands more/ knows a lot more about... he hasn't traveled a lot, so.. i wouldn't complain because its not that bad! and mostly it is very considerate of him! i wouldn't even mind being here at home at all because there will be a lot to do.... im just venting/ complaing to you yet; but yet i wouldn't complain to him about that... i wouldn't. its not a bad thing! and i already know i need to give some things a chance yet... ow boy /; any way, i know later i can do what i want... fuck all the crazy women here bloody hell! another thing i know is im always going to be able to travel and go to where ever i want... so im not Very fussed, but i don't always get too excited about things/ every thing.. ha! i also know where i do go, i will have enjoyable experiences, a nice time and a lavish time. so ha! to all the crazy women here. my guy never said i should obey him, he said he likes opinionated women because it shows they're smart! and he said he wil support me with all my decisions and not intervene with them.. ha! u sad cows.. ( : but im happy with it if he picked it even for himself... as i said i really wouldn't mind if i didn't go any where yet.. im happy saving the money... we would have a lot to plan as a new couple.. and a lot of new things to do, so im not fussed about holiday as of yet, i just want t enjoy the time with him... and it all easier for me at home where im used to it more and with more supportive friendly company.... we Have to travel after 3 month any way, for the after wedding ceremony... and when i get back i have more future agendas to get started on, and their will still be a lot to do with our selves too... dubai is for people with a lacking of imagination....

Public Comments

1. too long...a question
2. Just tell him how you feel and try to agree on a place. You should share your feelings with your spouse.
3. Sorry I don't have time to read all that.
4. your his wife (soon) you must obey him, even if its somewhere you dont want to go. You can talk to him about it, but like I said your his wife. I dont enjoy going to my mother's in law everynight for 4 hrs...they dont even speak english to me, so id be having more of a hard time then you. Try enjoy being with your husband in another country and make the most of it, and i mean he's taking you to another country he doesn't have to. appreciate what he's doing for you
5. You need to tell him your feelings, otherwise your emotions will overwhelm you, either now or later. You don't want to blow up at him when you could have rationally talked things through. If he still decides to take you there (and he does it not because he has to, just because he wants to and he ignores you) then that should be a sign you two are not compatible. You two are not married yet, so if he ignores you on this small issue then you know how he'll be when you are married. But I'm sure you know him, so just talk things through and inshallah things will work out! (btw, don't let family intervene. If he allows family to intervene unnecessarily then that is another sign you shouldn't marry!)
6. I have been married for nearly 5 years alhumdulilah, i have never been away anywhere on holiday with my husband, so the fact yours is already thinking of taking you away be greatful to him insha'Allah. We always worry before we marry as we bearly know the people we are about to marry, but Allah makes the halal easy and removes the barriers they we think may exsist. There will be shyness and akward moments but they really don't last long, a few years later you will miss the sh akwardness that you shared at the begining of marriage insha'Allah. Our husband will make edcisions in our lives that we must obey (not that you cannot talk things out with them though) There is always room for comprimise, especially in relation to something like a holiday. Just do not make a habit of it, this something i have found that men do not like i a woman when they are always opposing them for small matters sometimes just accept the way they want stuff. Have the intention of pleasing your Rabb by obey and keeping your husband happy you will i yurn reap the reawrd for you Lord insha'Allah and have barakah in your marriage.
7. Talk to him about it.
8. malaysia.. that would be my choice.. I am living in SaudiArabia right now,, have been to Dubai and its over stated.. It is not a representative of the middle east at all.. its like a whole nother world plopped down inside a desert.. 99% of the people there working are not from the Dubai population either.. They cant afford to live in Dubai.. You might as well visit Las Vegas if you want glitze... Dubai is hot and humid.. and expensive.. everythings expensive.. Sure if you are into shopping, but its not any cheaper there that it probably would be back home.. And everythign is imported from Europe and US anyways.. so nothing new there.. I say go to Malaysia.. it is still holding onto its own culture at least and loads cheaper, cleaner, and more nature to enjoy..
9. your so unthankful, your husband is taking you out on a holiday and you still complaining? wow think about all the ladies whose husband dont even take them out for a dam ice cream ! in life you need to be thankful for eveything you have even the smallest thing. how many kids dont have anything to eat? no clothes, no education and here you are complaining cause you going to Dubai, when Dubai is beautiful !
10. how come you don't want to go dubai? i would kill to go dubai lol that's 1 place i must go before i die InshAllah. it is a very sweet thing to do so you must be grateful he is doing this your husband is taking you to one of the most beautiful countries in the world. if you really don't want to go then talk to him and look for something you both agree on. maybe you been to a little part in dubai but its a really big country out there so you cant judge just a section of the country. Salaam
11. Couldn't wade through that lot but if you don't want to go, tell him to get knotted and marry someone else! It's hardly rocket science is it !